It makes no sense rushing to become a parent if you are not going to be a good one. No child deserves anything less than unconditional love and positive guidance. Our nation and the world as a whole desperately need some generations of well nurtured children.
Those who love, truly love, can be coerced into nothing.
In love, there is no need to choose between self and other, because self is other.
Look beyond a person's imperfections. That's where you'll find love.