In humans (and humans alone), sexuality is embodied in desire-in the primordial desire for life-as-relation. That the sex drive serves the vital desire for relation-that on the level of the primordial process, the desire for life-in-itself clothes itself in the sex drive-belongs to the particularity of being human.
For her, sex was nothing more than an itch. And this phsychological and physiological neutrality of hers at once relieved her of so many human emotions and sentiments and desires. Sexual neutrality was the essence of coldness in an individual. It was a great and wonderful thing to be born with.