What we can do, we must do: we must use what we are given, and we must use it the best we can, however much or little help we have for the task. What you have been given is a hard thing-a very hard thing... But my darling, what if there were no one who could do the difficult things?
You can be a really nasty, selfish little jerk when you're scared enough. I was scared enough.
As I have said, you have no reason to trust me, and an excellent reason not to.
It is halfway true that if you are involved in a family coffeehouse you don't have a life.