One truth doesn't refute another. Truth doesn't lie in the object, but in how we see it.
Sharks don’t eat seafood because they like it, but because chicken can’t swim.
When you are so ashamed of your actions, thoughts, or intentions, you lie rather than accepting yourself for who you really are - or, in this case, pretend something happened when it didn’t. The idea of how others see you becomes more important than the reality of you.
The thing about the old is that we never change so much as the young. We slip in degrees, adding rings like trees-a new wrinkle here, a shade less color there, but the young transform like caterpillars into butterflies. They become whole new people as if overnight.