There is no need for false solidity when you are at peace with the universal expanse of your true Being.
To attain true inner freedom, you must be able to objectively watch your problems instead of being lost in them... Once you've made the commitment to free yourself of the scared person inside, you will notice that there is a clear decision point at which your growth takes place.
If experience is the best teacher, there's nothing that comes close to the experience of life.
We are constantly trying to hold it all together. If you really want to see why you do things, then don't do them and see what happens.