I have already settled it for myself so flattery and criticism go down the same drain and I am quite free.
Nobody sees a flower - really - it is so small it takes time - we haven't time - and to see takes time, like to have a friend takes time.
It's not enough to be nice in life. You've got to have nerve.
I found I could say things with color and shapes that I couldn't say any other way... things I had no words for.