David W. Earle Quotes - Page 3

When someone obtains peace and serenity, this shines a bright spotlight on others’ own unhappiness making their discomfort even more apparent.

The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.

Putting labels on others creates a black hole of disregard where judgment thrives and schisms deepen.

Change will not successfully happen unless the emotional component is solved.

Change is hard, difficult, painful, and often messy

Being real is being true to you.

When you journey inwardly exploring yourself, a sense of personal trust begins.

We ardently desire to take down our masks and say to the world, “This is who I am…and I am okay.” This is simple…not easy.

Families living in dysfunction seldom have healthy boundaries. Dysfunctional families have trouble knowing where they stop and others begin.

Boundaries represent awareness, knowing what the limits are and then respecting those limits.

Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is an ongoing process and maturity demands lifelong learners.

Shame is a powerful feeling. There is a tremendous difference between making a mistake and believing you are a mistake...If I don’t see myself as being a mistake then it is I who must take responsibility and I am not ready to accept that.

Under this aura of perfection he knows how flawed he really is but his intact denial system keeps this awareness suppressed in the far recesses of his mind.

Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, and then the really hard part…changing behavior.

The more dysfunctional, the more some family members seek to control the behavior of others.

If no one has boundaries…how can there be any transgression?

It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.

Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of my own life and how I was living.

Chaos limits the free-flow of love and becomes a roadblock to what family members want most and sadly, it becomes the normal for the family.

Sitting on the hot seat of change requires much courage, patience, and persistence.